The secret of a successful marriage”

Why Relationships Fail

While the last thing couples want to think about is breaking up, the sad reality is that it happens—a lot in these modern times. Breaking up doesn’t only refer to an official divorce, it also implies when there is a need based effect between couples..they talk only if needed…between rooms…WhatsApp flourishes…they don’t even prefer to hear their voices…
What once appeared beautiful…is today a cause for irritation.
People don’t owe up to this because our society has social norms…
In fact, according to recent data from certain quarters, as many as 87% of marriages in India eventually end in divorce. Some who are still clinging onto the twig …are doing so for lack of Financial stability.

But how can you tell whether your relationship will survive? Well, there are surefire predictive tells like your bedroom habits, the way you argue, and how often you communicate.

Even the way you carry your day-to-day conversations can shed light on your relationship’s longevity. When mutual respect is done and dusted, that’s when your relationship becomes a “document of contract between two individuals who have agreed to live together for the next 25years, time permitting”

Keep reading this post to discover some of the most common reasons why relationships fall apart.

  • You withdraw during arguments.
    Couples admitted that they withdrew often during arguments reported being unhappier and more apathetic about the relationship overall. Not able to withstand each other becomes another if the opposite person were the armpits and its stench was unbearable.

“Withdrawal is the most problematic for relationships,”. “It’s a defense tactic that people use when they feel they are being attacked, and there’s a direct association between withdrawal and lower satisfaction overall with the relationship.”

  • You’re not on the same page…..isn’t this the most common problem today.
    Yes…No….Maybe….I will not answer only Yes, love can overcome many things, but if there’s one thing that it can’t overcome, it’s not being on the same page. EGO is the cause here… At the end of the day, you and your partner need to be clear about fundamental decisions like where to live, when and if to have kids, and how to save and spend money—otherwise, the relationship will fall apart…and when it does it comes to…your money…my hard earned money…my car…your car

Today “77 percent of disagreements in a relationship never get resolved and they don’t need to, but the other 23 percent, if not resolved, can lead to the end of the relationship.” these are so-called “dealbreakers” are often “desires of one partner for the relationship to get more serious, personal beliefs and values, the kind of lifestyle each person wants to live, and wanting to have children.”

  • You hold your partner to unrealistic standards.
    Your partner is likely doing the best they can—but like any human, they’re going to mess up and make mistakes sometimes. And while a supportive spouse handles these slip-ups like a mature adult, an unsupportive one will treat their partner like they should be perfect 100 percent of the time, leading to frustration on both ends…this % is growing on a daily basis…

“When your partner doesn’t measure up to something they didn’t even sign up for, there is a tendency to try to change them, with no understanding that your own behavior plays a huge role,”. “By focusing on your partner, it allows for justification as to why they are the problem.”

  • You’re afraid of being alone.
    Many people will avoid conflict and pretend that issues in their relationship don’t exist simply because they live in fear of being alone, even after having a spouse at home. However, this strategy backfires, as all conflicts will rear their ugly heads eventually—and by then, it’s usually too late to solve them.

“Being afraid of being alone, and thus willing to accept any relationship no matter how unhealthy, is another common pattern that keeps relationships from working,” many felt this way. “Appropriate boundaries need to be identified and enforced.”

  • You rely on body language to convey your feelings.
    At the beginning of a relationship, couples tend to be honest and open about their feelings and emotions. But as things progress, many people doom their relationships by assuming that their significant other can—and should be able to—read their body language and just know what’s on their mind.
    Why is the lady supposed to so all the housework…where is this written…
    Why should the man not lend a helping hand….
    Why should the lady wear the pants at home and go out to earn bread….what’s the man doing????

“Where a conversation once existed, now there is silence, an eye roll, or edgy energy emitting that becomes divisive if not ultimately crushing, Over time we get too comfortable in our partnership, too lazy, or sometimes even become apprehensive and we stop communicating thoughtfully with each other.”

  • You compare your relationship to everyone else’s.
    The worse things are in your own relationship, the better everyone else’s is going to look. But by comparing yourself, you are only going to feel worse. You looked like a doll 25 years ago….now u dont…so does love diminish….the man looked handsome 25 years ago…today he is not…over weight or under weight or a big paunch….what once seemed to be. a nice place to keep your head and sleep…is today a roller coaster ride with his snorrrring as an added plus…You’re ultimately sabotaging whatever of your relationship there is left to salvage.
  • You refuse to compromise.
    Compromising isn’t just about letting your spouse choose which restaurant you go to every once in a while. In a healthy, committed relationship, to compromise is to make “the conscious choice to accept each other for exactly who you are,” ….isn’t it???
    Don’t u agree
    Yes No Maybe

Hope the post was upto your liking and the examples helped…

Have a day filled with love and roses .

3 thoughts on “The secret of a successful marriage””

    1. It’s great the way you have described i feel the same, there are 2 major factors in relationships. first conversation and second comparison, If we can come over this both we can not only have good relationship but also. A better life in today’s world.

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